Did you think this article was going to be about a new position or edible underwear? While those things are fun to add to your love life, I don't believe that they - in the long run - will add as much to your love life as you think.
While toys and trinkets and positions can improve the "moment", or act, of love-making, as a couple you should cultivate a loving environment in your relationship. The act of love making should be the over flow of the love that is going on in your relationship - not something that you do to see if you are 'compatible' with a person.
With that in mind, here are some ways to add a bit more to your life full of love - that climaxes with awesome sex (pun intended):
Appreciate the person for more than just their body. Your mate is more than body parts. Make sure you appreciate their mind, soul and spirit. Find times to learn about your spouse. Continue to ask them questions about themselves to remain connected, and interested. Enjoy worship services together, talk to one another about dreams and visions for the future - independent and together.
Remember that your love life is sacred. Sex is much more than sex. It should be an overflow of the relationship that you have with your mate. If anything is broken outside the bedroom, it usually reflects in the bedroom. Work on elements outside the bedroom to make your love making even better!
Make it an adventure. Stop doing the same old thing - do something different - go to a new city, take up a new hobby together, ride bikes, hang glide, parachute - do something together to add adventure to your love life!
Make connections outside the bedroom. All relationships are built on connections. Points of contact, and points of interest. Think about the relationships you have - many are because of work, or a hobby, or something that you shared together with someone. You have to find ways to connect with your spouse in multiple ways outside the bedroom. This relates to the adventure element from above - learn to take up hobbies with your spouse, or enjoy some of the things that they enjoy.
Be giving, not always receiving. The saying goes "It's more blessed to give than receive". Learn to be a giver. Give love, forgiveness, respect, honor, peace, understanding, patience, kindness and more. Don't suck the other person dry expecting them to meet your every need. Truthfully, they never will. Try to be the type of person you would like them to be. It might inspire a change in their behavior. Don't manipulate - be truly generous, without condition.
Be Quick to forgive. Old wounds will fester if they are left untended. It is up to you to forgive quickly. Sure, they may be in the wrong. But who cares? If you are in a relationship for the long haul - isn't more important to move past it - or work through it than hold a grudge? That never works. In the long run, you only end up hurting yourself if you hold on to it.
Be quick to listen. Listening is only one side of a conversation, but I tend to believe that it is the more important side. Everyone likes to talk about themselves. Learn to be an active listener attentive and caring of your mate. Truly taking in what they say. Listen with your body and your eyes. Lean in to your spouse and make eye contact.
Dean Matthew enjoys learning more and more about his wife, big hugs from his son, and a good cigar. He runs the marriage website How to Spice Up Your Marriage.
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